Jesus said: "I am the way, the truth and the life; if not through me, and no one can come to the Father" (John 14:6)

Isaiah 43:5

"Do not be afraid, for I am with you; I will bring your children from the east and gather you from the west"

Tuesday, April 24, 2012


Does the title seem like some secret coded message? I think it is, at least a foreign language spoke in the international adoption world.Should I shed some light? LOI 5/27/2011 - received our "Letter of Intent" . Basically we were matched we Mia and ask permission to adopt her. DTC 12/16/2011 - "Date to China" . Our paper work went to China to be reviewed and processed. LOA 2/20/2012 - "Letter of Acceptance" China has reviewed & accepted the paperwork. I800 3/18/2012- United States approves us to bring specific orphan into our country. NVC 3/15/2012- National Visa Center approves paper work to apply for a visa for Mia. TA- 4/20/2012- Travel approval issued by China, allowing us to come into China to adopt Mia. CA- arrived 4/23- Consulate appointment sent out by the US from the US consulate in GZ ,China actual CA- 5/29/2012- This is the final step we do in China before bringing Mia home. They look one more time at the paper work and issue her the VIsa to come in to the USA. So really the wonderful news is that after many months of code letters and abbreviations...our flights are booked! We will be leaving the US on May 17 and return home with more in our family and one less orphan in the world on June 1,2012.

Tuesday, April 17, 2012

Saturday, April 14, 2012

Real or fake

Sugar vs Sweet & Low
Diamonds vs cubic zirconia
Cool whip vs homemade whip cream
Fresh flowers vs plastic flowers
Strawberries vs fruit snacks
Grandma's meatballs vs frozen meatballs
Designer jeans vs Kmart jeans
Prada purse vs Chinese copy cat purse
Real parents vs adoptive parents
Real daughter/son vs biological child

Did the last two comparisons make you cringe? They sure would if you are an adoptive parent or child. I know what makes a REAL parent. I love you unconditionally, I hold you when you need it, I wipe your tears away, I am up at night with you to sooth your fears, I clean your boogers, I cheer you on, I love you unconditionally, I discipline you, I read to you. I love you unconditionally, your pain is my pain, your joys are my joys, I love you unconditionally...did I say I love you unconditionally!?!?
As we journey to adopt again there are tons of things I think and pray and honestly worry about. I pray-think-worry about bonding, attachment, safety as we travel, hearts of all my children, home schooling 3 little ones, up coming surgeries,,,. So I prepare by praying, reading, making doctors appointments, ect.,
But one thing I never never never worried about was this conversation between Lily (age 6) and "other 5 year old kid"
Other 5 year old kid says to Lily
- Are they taking you back to China to bring you back to your REAL parents?
Lily tells him "these are REAL parents! My Chinese parents had to give me to my REAL parents because they were too old, or too sick, or just could not take care of me.
(I know that we will most likely never know why my girls were relinquished but these are some of the reasons that I thought a child may understand) Yes we have had the "why" conversations. And as hard as they are, boy am I glad we did. Lily was prepared. It is our responsibility as their REAL parents to prepare our adopted kids for the world but more importantly to prepare them for doubts and questions that may arise within themselves. Are they real daughters, real sisters, are they worthy? So my prayer now is that all of my children will always know they are REAL, and worthy. Not so much in the eyes of others, but in the eyes of Christ, their one perfect REAL father.
Some books that we read that help in our conversations about adoption are:

PS yes, when I told my husband, Lily's REAL dad, he wanted to knock the 5 year olds head off because that's what REAL dads do-protect their kids.

Thursday, April 12, 2012

She never had a real job,she is just a mother

I leave most of the political banter in our house to my husband. Not because he is smarter or better than me, it is just his "thing". But I found my self thinking all day (in my free time... between making school lunches,getting the two little ones dressed & washed up, two dentist appointments, home schooling two of the 6 kids, grocery shopping,feeding my children, going to appointed play date, collecting more paper work for our taxes, going to the bank, picking up children from school, talking with our accountant, talking to the insurance company, paying some bills, doing some adoption paperwork, ect., you get the point!) about the woman democratic operative who condemned Ann Romney for not ever having a real job because Mrs. Romney had chosen to stay home and raise her 5 children. I am NOT complaining about MY JOB because unlike lots of people in this world who do not like their jobs regardless of what they do I LOVE MY JOB! and yes being a mother is my full time job! Why do we feel like that my job needs to be defended?!? Because of dumb talking heads on TV getting paid big money to say stupid things!
Our country has come so far left that I think some Americans are going off the deep end. I heard one person say well... "they have lots of money so she did not really raise her kids, they must have had cooks and nannys. So now we are bad mothers if
we have money. NO I do not have a cook or a nanny but boy have I wished for one from time to time!! And a fairy God mother too!
I do not have a great memory but I do remember some conversations more than others..these are two of them...
When I was pregnant with our first daughter I was teaching middle school. I loved my job. I worked for an excellent woman administer. She was a super mentor for me as I was just starting out in that career. I was nervous about going into her office and telling her I was not returning to work after I had delivered our daughter. After all she was a "career woman" who was actually leaving at the end of that school year to work for the Department of Education in Washington DC. She looked me straight in the eye and told me what a wonderful decision I was making. She said her children were grown, fine and healthy and they held no ills against her for working outside of the home BUT SHE missed those days of being home with them as children. And she could never get them back. She had a sadness in her eyes. That was 22 years ago...
Just last year I had a conversation with a woman, mother of 3 young adults-2 in college, one in high school. She asked me if I have other interests besides my children. She went on to add, that she had friends that lives revolved around their kids so she could barely talk to them any more.I felt like I had to defend my self worth. So I listed...I read, I garden, I blah blah blah blah... That conversation stuck with me for several days. I decided that I have not too much to talk to HER about and that was OK with me. I am now in my late 40s so I am more confident in MY job choice.
But why is motherhood being attacked?!? What little worth society has placed on our children, our families, our marriages. I am NOT for one minute knocking the moms who work INSIDE and OUTSIDE of their homes. Hats off to you, I know it must be overwhelming, and exhausting. But why in the world would another WOMAN condemn the work of motherhood. SHAME on you!

Wednesday, April 11, 2012

New fees

So yesterday AM, we sent out our Visa applications. It took a few hours to get the papers together.
I am a stickler for making copies of everything I send out-so that takes time.
New passport photos-so that takes time.
Since C and L were born in China, more papers to gather-so that takes some time.
I check and recheck that the documents are in order-so that takes time.
Drive to the Fed Ex office, recheck,-so that takes time.
All in all it took a few of hours.
Good its done, one more item to check off the list.
No wait, later that day I get an email from our agency letting us know that that the Visa fees are going up, effective THIS Friday, yes, I sent out the packet on Tuesday. It should be delivered on Thursday. At this point I don't care about the amount of money. It's just that I am hoping that since I sent out the packet, there won't be a delay since the fees were changed, literally hours after I sent it out. Always something to keep me on my toes!

Friday, April 06, 2012

Artcle 5 delivered !

Our Article 5 was officially delivered to CCAA in Beijing this week!
This is what the next 6 weeks or so should look like-
Week of April 4th-Article 5 delivered
Week of April 7-21 -Travel Approval received
Week of May 5- request Consulate Appt.
May 12- Tylar graduates college
May 18- Travel to China
Week of May 18th- Meet Mia- Fujian,China
Week of May 25th- trav to GZ to the American Consulate
Sometime around May 31, travel home.
This is most likey what our schedule looks like, but in the world of international adoption... you never know what may pop up.
Please pray -
for the loose ends that need to be tied up
peace and calm in our home
And ofcouse for Mia's heart as she transitions into our family, her new forever family.

Tuesday, April 03, 2012

Article 5

Just got an email from China letting me know that our Article 5 is ready! Our agency needs to forward this to CCAA and we wait for our travel approval (TA)
TA normally takes about 3 weeks to be issued by China.
Then we request a consulate appointment (CA). Once our CA is issued we can make our plane reservations and bring Mia home! We seem to still be shooting for the May 18th travel date. My pre adoption insomnia has kicked in and is driving me crazy! Praying for some peaceful sleep in the weeks ahead. Please pray for me!